Thanks to a few friends posting a link on the Book that is Face, I came across an encouraging blog entry, one that I hope brings encouragement and conviction to wives of any age and at varying stages of their own marriages. The post comes from the Mars Hill Church blog, and is entitled "18 Lessons from 18 Years of Marriage." Having been so encouraged, I printed a copy of the post to keep in my journal. Only by God's daily grace can we live with another sinner saved by the same grace, putting their needs ahead of our own and do so gladly with their good in mind. Here are Grace Driscoll's 18 lessons from her perspective as a wife:
- Make time with Jesus your first priority, husband second priority.
- Be intimate often.
- Be willing to have hard and honest conversations, and pray for Jesus to make them fruitful.
- Pray for wisdom often.
- The enemy is always ready to divide you during trials. Don’t let him; cling to Jesus and each other.
- Forgive, forgive, forgive, forgive …
- Don’t enable his sin, but pray for wisdom in timing and words, and be respectful when addressing it.
- Be a woman of inner and outer beauty.
- Make your home a place of retreat and rest.
- Study your husband, appreciate, value and respect him, especially when you don’t “feel” like it.
- HAVE FUN.
- Pray against lies. Memorize the truth of Scripture.
- Spend regular, meaningful time together. Invest in the relationship.
- Don’t let bitterness set in if you are hurt or frustrated; dig up the root and pray it through.
- Be an attentive and available listener.
- Be teachable and willing to submit.
- Set your heart and body toward your husband and don’t let either wander.
- Repent often and allow trustworthy people to speak into your lives.